Ah, the parental barrier. For those of us who still live at home or see our parents a lot, the subject of lolita will indefinitely come up. Now, different parents will have different views, but all may not at first understand. For example, my own mother doesn't get lolita and thinks it's for little kindergarten girls. It hurts a bit when she says my favorite style is for little girls, but I just explain to her the ideals behind lolita. Lolita fashion is based on modesty and expression of oneself without baring all of one's assets. I feel as though my parents respect me and the fashion just a little more after hearing what it's all about.
So try doing a small presentation to your parents explaining that lolita is in no way related to the novel and is not some kind of weird fetish, but a form of modest self expression and respect of the female form.
Share with your parents your favorite prints and styles. It can be a fun way to get to know each other better.
Assure your parents that they are not obligated to buy your $300 dresses (unless they offer... then go for it, haha!). They'll feel better about the fashion if they know you're working for it, and will therefore get more value from it. Lolita is a great budgeting teacher! Parents might be more accepting if they know you're learning life skills from your hobby.
Most of all, have fun! DOn't let any negative comments deter you. Let it all slide off your armor of icy indifference and continue on with your frills! Good luck!
What do your parents think?
I'm a lucky one, I showed my mom some pictures of Lolita (Classic is my fav, so most were classic) and I don't know who was more excited, me or her! She rushed over to the computer and started looking for patterns and talking about fabric! Best... mom... ever! （＾∇＾）
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